How can I visit my son in Vietnam?
April 20, 2009 - Posted in Vietnam Vacation
I have an infant son in Vietnam. I want to go see him but the girl's parents are going to ask me for lots of money because they think all americans are rich. I'm flat broke, and accidentally got her pregnant during a vacation. I didn't know her well but i've been talking to her online and she keeps asking for money. There hasn't been a DNA test done but i'm confident the kid is mine if you know what I mean.
you should take a DNA test first anyways then see what happens
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2 Responses to “How can I visit my son in Vietnam?”
I am going to be perfectly blunt, but not intending to be offensive.
There are a significant number of Vietnamese girls who actively seek out foreign boyfriends. Some of those are complete fakes.
The real ones do so for reasons that perhaps can't be generalized.
Of the fakes, I knew one girl (I personally was not in a relationship with her). This gail named Mai worked in HCMC as a bar manager. That was her official title. Whenever she wanted some money for whatever reason, she would doll herself up and be a taxi-girl (prostitute). In the mean time, she had 3 sperate foreign boyfriends. She was engaged to each and they knew nothing about the others. Each sent money each month and when they visited, as far as they knew, he was her only love. She married the first one that came up with the money and commitment to take her out of Vietnam. She now lives in California. As for the other two, she said nothing and just ceased all contact with them. They went to HCMC to look for her and those that knew her, told them the tragic truth.
Mai is just one of many.
I am not saying your girl is like that, but what I am saying is that these girls are so convincing, that you would not suspect them for a moment.
I say this so that you do not get suckered in if that is the case.
Putting that to one side, to avoid the family, don't go near them. If they arfe in HCMC, go to Hanoi and meet your girl there.
If your child id you child, the sad thing is that in VN, if a child is born to a foreign father and they are not married, by law, your name is not permitted on the irth certificate.
Some foreign a-holes take advantage of that knowing they can never be stuck paying child maintenance.
For a DNA test… use one of the foreign hospitals which are well away from the risk of bribes to name you the father if you are not.
VN girls asking for money from foreign boyfriends is common. The test is to stop sending, or send very little. See hoe that effects how genuine they are.
Truth is, some will get pregnant to sucker foreigners in to pay. If in the west a father paid just $100 a month in child support it is cheap, so to pay that in VN is not considered a great outlay, but since in VN the average wage is around $45 a month, girls that are cheaters can get very rich out of guys who think they are the father. Particularly if 3 or 4 guys think they are the father.
Tread lightly.
You asking the question easily demonstrates that you are not sure.
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By Oz M on Apr 21, 2009
you should take a DNA test first anyways then see what happens
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By Kevin on Apr 21, 2009